Relationships are one of the most important things in life because humans are bound to crave for intimacy and connection.
Just recently, a Malaysian woman has expressed her concerns on her post in a confession page. In her post, she mentioned that she is afraid to break up with her boyfriend.
“We’ve been together for about 6 years and have met each other’s families. Our interactions with each other’s families are great and we would always attend family functions together. We live together now and every time we argue, we’ll make up for it.
When we first had our fights, my reactions were pretty huge but as time went by, I’d just be quiet as he argues”, she said.
She also mentioned that even when he does something to upset her, she doesn’t feel as hurt anymore and she just feels numb. As she reflects, she finally understood why some of her friends would continue to date their significant other despite them treating them poorly.
“Maybe it’s the fact that they’re used to the comfort they get after being with someone for a period of time. But I don’t want to continue with a relationship that feels like that anymore”, she added.
She then ended the post saying that she’s had wanted to break up on multiple occasions but couldn’t bring herself to do it.
“I don’t know how to face my family when we break up, if we do break up. I’d have to move back in with my family. I really don’t know what to do if we break up. I don’t know how to face my relatives and friends when they find out”, she mentioned.
This post has garnered plenty of attention and here’s what some of the netizens said:
“I think you’re just not ready to face the questions from your relatives. After all, 6 years isn’t short, if you really don’t want to continue this relationship, you should leave now. The longer you wait, the harder it’ll get. The pain that you feel can’t be seen by others.”
“If this relationship isn’t making you happy, then I don’t think you should continue it. There won’t be happiness from a forced relationship.”
“It’s either you break up or get a divorce and leave him with your kids, you pick.”
“If you’re going to take your relatives’ opinion into consideration, you’re not going to walk out of it. The most that they’ll do is eat their popcorn and ‘watch’ the show. Just let them watch, they can’t do anything. If they ask, just don’t answer them, let them know you’re unhappy about it.”
“You can get a divorce if you’re married, why can’t you break up if you’re in a relationship? Please remember to always put your feelings first (I’m not saying you should be selfish, just want you to prioritise your feelings). When you notice that there’s something going on with your emotions, please be kind to yourself, then only will you be able to solve your problems.
Breaking up is your issue, not your family’s, friends’ or relatives’. If they want to know they’ll ask you. You don’t owe them an explanation. You can move back into your house, or you could just live on your own. ”
“Don’t use your relatives as an excuse. If you’re concerned about this means you don’t really want to break up. If you really wanted to break up, you wouldn’t even think about these.
I want to say, this is how love is like, once the honeymoon phase is over, that’s when the real deal starts.”
As social media users, we’d occasionally stumble across different types of ‘confessions’ on Facebook. Some may be serious, amusing, or outright ridiculous. As an anonymous post, we remind everyone to take it with a pinch of salt.
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