A Malaysian woman recently went online to advise other women not to compromise their morals when trying to advance in the workplace, after she had admittedly “lost her way” by flirting to climb the corporate ladder.
The woman, who had been part of the workforce for about 5 years, anonymously took to the XUAN Facebook page to share how she had gotten to that point in her life.
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She wrote, “From my first job, I witnessed some of the (finance) industry’s less-than-stellar aspects. The complex internal relationships and profit-driven culture left me feeling quite disillusioned. I had always believed that professionalism, hard work and dedicated client service would allow me to go far.”
“However, as time went on, I gradually realised that this industry often leans towards patriarchy. Especially for women who are attractive and have a bit of talent—it’s like having a winning hand. They can rise through the ranks quickly and make a name for themselves.”
Wanting to make a name for herself too, she relied on her “external strengths”
She shared how she became more attentive and approachable in order to gain more opportunities, but realised that this method was causing her to “lose her way”.
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“I actually have a boyfriend who loves me very much. But, at work, I was being overly ‘friendly’ with certain clients, constantly walking the line between flirtation and professionalism. Sometimes I didn’t even reject their advances. A few times, I almost crossed lines I shouldn’t have.”
“I was constantly battling with myself. On one hand, I felt like I was just getting what I wanted. On the other hand, I felt like I had no principles—I was selfish and immoral. I knew it wasn’t the right path, but my career drive and ambition had long since overpowered my moral boundaries.. I didn’t want to let go of the advantages I had built over the years, nor did I want to live an ordinary life in my prime years,” she added.
Her piece of advice
Realising that certain work environments can be challenging for women, while highlighting how “those with outstanding appearances” can be more prone to flirtation over professionalism to get their way, she wants to turn her life around and hopes other women will not fall for this same trick.
“The workplace has never been easy for women, and for those who are physically attractive, it’s easier to lose direction,”
“I just hope I can move on quickly, regain my emotional balance, rediscover my original aspirations and stop sacrificing myself for small opportunities,”
“I also want to use this post as a reminder to others, especially women like me struggling in the workplace. Work hard for your career, but don’t lose your integrity and don’t allow yourself to make regrettable decisions,” she said.
Malaysians share their varying responses
“Thankfully, you cut your losses in time. I hope you can truly rediscover your original intentions and spend your life with your loving boyfriend. Good luck.”
“Don’t let your lack of moral integrity become a factor in making things difficult for women in the workplace.”
“Don’t make it out like all beautiful girls are like you, it’s you that’s taking shortcuts.”
“Anyway, in today’s society, people laugh at the poor but not at prostitutes. There’s no point in pretending. Just keep ‘itching’.”
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