Just recently, a Malaysian woman, Samantha (pseudonym) expressed her frustration about dealing with her mum when it involves giving the latter her monthly allowance. Samantha earns around RM10,000 per month and despite the 5 figure salary, she has a lot of commitment under her belt.
- Home rental (RM2,500)
- Medical supplies for dad, who is a cancer patient
As for her mother, Samantha has a credit card, which she sets no limit for spending to cover her parents’ meals and medical expenses, which can go up to RM3,000 per month. Not only that but here’s what Samantha has been sponsoring for her mother:
- Monthly Touch N’ Go (RM300)
- Birthday (Not less than RM800)
- Mother’s Day (Not less than RM800)
- CNY (Not less than RM1,500)
Speaking to WORLD OF BUZZ, Samantha said all utilities and weekly dine-outs are paid on her card.
“Birthday and Mother’s Day are not less than RM800 because 8 is a lucky number in Chinese culture.”
For the past 2 months, Samantha also forked out another RM10,000 for the maid they recently hired to help her mother take care of her bedridden father. Samantha has 2 sisters. One of them had cut ties with the family due to personal reasons.
Samantha’s expenses on her mother, however, do not stop here.
“If she has an ad hoc trip with friends, she would ask RM300 to RM500 from me for a trip. Back in March, I brought her on a full-paid trip to Bangkok, excluding RM1,000 pocket money.”
“I love you but can’t do this anymore, mother”
Samantha has done her best to make her mother happy. Unfortunately, with the ever-rising commitment, she finds it tough to give her mother as much as she used to, so she brought it up to her mother politely, which you can see in the screenshot below.
Unfortunately, Samantha’s desire to be understood was not reciprocated. Her mother wanted her to “carry forward” the money she couldn’t give to the festive season of another year. Still, Samantha tried her best to make her mother understand but to no avail.
“Am I a bad daughter for not entirely supporting her monetarily?”
Samantha shared her frustration with WORLD OF BUZZ and wondered if she had not done enough to make her mother happy.
“I’m feeling underappreciated. I want to cry. Am I a bad daughter? I’m threatened by my mum to give more without her considering my cash flow.”
Many people will go to great lengths just to keep their loved ones happy. In this case, what else do you think both parties can do to make things better?