A young Malaysian man is enduring a dilemma as he feels miserable at the loss of his entire family, leaving him with a massive inheritance and a huge hole in his heart.
Taking to the XUAN Facebook page, the 21-year-old anonymously confessed to feeling extremely lonely, while sharing his uncertainty on how to handle the 6 properties and more than RM4 million left to him by his deceased elders.
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He wrote, “I am 21 years old and the only child of 3 generations in my family. Now, I am the only one still alive in my family. My grandparents on both sides and my parents are all gone. To be honest, I feel very lonely. They each left me a house. Now, I have a total of 6 terrace houses under my name, but I have never rented them out.”
“There is more than RM4 million in the bank, which is the savings they left behind before they died. Now, all the money is in fixed deposit accounts. I know this is a lot of money, I really don’t dare to spend it because I’ve always felt that this is my parents’ ‘life money’ that they earned from working hard in their lifetime.”
“I eat either instant noodles or mixed rice”
Due to this, he had chosen to live a very simple life, only eating simple meals while daring not to enjoy even the smallest amount spent.
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“I eat very simple food every day, either instant noodles or mixed rice. Even if I spend money, I dare not enjoy it. Even ordering takeout meals makes me feel uneasy. I always feel that if I spend more, I will let (my elders) down,” he said.
On top of that, without the presence of his family around him, his loneliness has started to weigh heavily on him.
“In the past 2 years, my mood has become very low. Without any relatives around me, I have become more and more closed off, unwilling to go out and unwilling to talk to people. I know that these resources (his inheritance) are a rare luck to many people, but even if I have money, I don’t have family, no one to share it with or rely on,”
“I am not showing off, I am just really miserable. I have no direction, and I don’t know how long I can hold on. I just want to find a place to breathe and I want to ask, what should I do?”
Malaysians respond
Many urged him to find something to keep him occupied or a purpose in life, whether in the form of pursuing his studies, travelling, doing charity work, or even starting his own family.
“You have to be strong, find something to do. Go to class, study, travel and get to know a different world. People can only change by themselves. Others cannot help.”
“Do some good deeds, volunteer to help those in need.”
“You should volunteer, go to nursing homes, orphanages. You don’t have to worry about lacking money, you may slowly find happiness by helping in these places.”
“Find your other half, build your own family and have your own children.”
What do you think he should do? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.
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