“I feel like a maid” – M’sian GF Rants About BF Who Pays the Rent but Doesn’t Help With House Chores

Relationships are all about give and take. There’s often an unspoken understanding of what each partner should contribute. However, despite calling it an “unspoken” rule, communication is truly key to a healthy relationship.

In a recent confession story posted by @meinmokhtar, an anonymous woman (let’s call her Olivia) shared her concerns about certain dissatisfactions she has been experiencing with her boyfriend.

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“He’s a lazy boyfriend”

Olivia revealed that she and her boyfriend plan to get married by the end of the year, although they are already living together.

She explained that initially, everything was fine and she could manage cooking and cleaning the house. However, over time, she realised that her boyfriend wasn’t willing to help out at home, to the extent that he couldn’t even wash his own dishes.

“I’m afraid that once we’re married, our routine will change. I work full-time, but if he won’t help out at home, how can I address this with him?”

He doesn’t like to waste money on expensive food

Olivia continued to explain that as they discussed their marriage plans, they agreed that her boyfriend would pay the rent, while she would only have to cover the bills.

She mentioned her love for eating and how she’s accustomed to enjoying expensive meals, but usually only with her family. She noted that her mother always reminds her that when it comes to food, one shouldn’t be too calculating.

“I’ve never asked him to take me out to a fancy dinner. In fact, I only asked him to get me snacks, and even then he said he doesn’t want to waste money on it.”

“I feel like I’ve downgraded myself by choosing him”

Olivia continued to wrestle with her dilemma of how to confront her boyfriend after seeing his true colours, especially now that they’re so close to getting married.

“I won’t deny that he’s hardworking at his job, but he makes me feel like a maid at home. We often argue about his unwashed dishes. I’m exhausted. I don’t know how to approach him.”

Do you think Olivia is justified in feeling this way, or could there be another perspective to consider? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!

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