As human, it’s in our nature to help those in need, including ‘somebody that you used to know’. With that said, how do you see yourself reacting if your ex reaches out to you to ask for financial help?
A Malaysian woman recently shared her frustration about “returning gifts” after receiving a call for help from her ex-boyfriend, who has not spoken to her for many years after the breakup. The man wanted to borrow some money from her and while the amount is not disclosed, she politely said no.
The rejection did not sit well with the man, who tried to remind the woman about all the things she got from him in the past during the relationship.
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“He got so unhappy and told me he spent a lot on me on gifts, but I did the same towards him too.”
Break up = returning gifts?
The woman refused to argue further, so she “dragged” the man into her block list. While the conversation may have stopped, the thoughts about the gifts she received previously continued to make noise in her mind.
She couldn’t help but to wonder if received gifts are meant to be returned to the giver after a break up.
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“If I can’t return it, is there any ‘break-up fee’? I’m now traumatised to even receive gifts so I might as well stay single,” she said.
Her post did not sit well with many women who agreed that her ex-BF is nothing but a useless man for getting upset when he was rejected.
“Really? This man had a GF? This doesn’t make any sense at all.”
“Ignore him once you have blocked him. If he wants to talk about the past, it’s more the reason to ignore him.”
“Try to think from another perspective. He’s now your past, fortunately.”
“Might as well return the gifts to him, so you don’t owe him anything anymore.”
“I need to block my ex now before he sees this post and asks me to return the gift.”
“Men who reach out to ask to return the gifts are the worst. That’s what happened to me and I packed everything, put it outside my doorstep and asked him to take them back.”
“Ask him to pay you back for all the times you have slept with him.”
Ladies, what do you do if you ex reaches out for financial help and doesn’t react well if you reject him? Gentlemen, will you ask you former partner to return all the gifts? Discuss.
Also read: “I don’t feel safe” – M’sian Breaks Up With Her 27yo BF For Only Having RM50k of Savings
