Growing up in an Asian family would mean that part of your ‘success’ is measured by how much you earn or how good your job is. That being said, this Malaysian feels like her parents are being biased as she is told to clean up after her siblings each time they head back to their hometown for Raya.
In her post, she mentioned that when she was growing up with her siblings, there wasn’t much of an issue as her parents would raise them the same way. “We would get the same amount of punishments and scolding if we did something wrong but as we grew up and they’ve found a good job or got married, I could tell the difference”, she said.
She expressed that she doesn’t really like to celebrate Raya because whenever it’s Raya and her siblings head back to their hometown, they act like they’re some VIPs and wouldn’t even bat an eye or offer to help her with chores.
“My parents would make me clean their rooms, prepare their food & drinks prior to them arriving. Aren’t we the same? We are all family, but I’d have to do all the work. Just because I have a ‘normal’ job, I’d have to entertain them as well?”, she added.
She then revealed that she too works away from her hometown but her parents would request for her to head back earlier so she could ‘help’ prepare for her siblings’ arrival.
“When they arrive, they’ll just sit in the living room and chat with my parents while I have to prepare everything”, she said.
She then ended the post saying that,
“When they leave, they’ll just leave their plates on the table, and I’ll have to clean those as well. Why do I have to do all these while they can just waltz in and out? I just hope my parents can realise how biased they are.”
Parents should not judge their children based on their achievements. Chores should be evenly distributed regardless.
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