When it comes to family, it’s important that they’re supportive as they’re considered as people who are closest to you. That being said, one shouldn’t take their family for granted just because they’re willing to do more.
Just recently, a Malaysian woman has shared her husband’s experience dealing with his family. In her post she said,
“My husband mentioned that the biggest mistake he made in his life is telling his parents how much he earns a month. When his family found out that he earns that much, they kept asking him for more money and when he refuses to give, his family would say that he has forgotten where he came from.”
She then continued her story saying that her husband once gave his mother her allowance slightly later than usual, and the mum actually called his oldest brother complaining that he did not give her any monthly allowance at all.
His brother than called him, shouting at him and saying how he is unfilial to his family.
“My husband kept quiet and didn’t say much after. He just cut contact with his family and stopped giving them their monthly allowance altogether. 2 months later, his mom texted him asking if he isn’t going to give them their monthly allowance at all and he refused to reply as well”, she added.
She then revealed that a month later, her husband’s mom sent him messages about being anak derhaka, forgetting his roots and not fulfilling his duty as a son according to Islamic rules but as expected her husband did not respond as well.
His brother then contacted him again, asking him to help his family back in their hometown as he only gives RM100 every month. Back then, her husband would give them enough to even cover for his sibling’s school fees and their utility bills.
A year after the incident, his mom apologised to him for her behavior. “My husband only wanted their apology, he felt that he has sacrificed a lot for his family but just because he was late that one time, he was cussed upon and scolded”, she said.
She then ended the post by saying that her husband has started giving them their monthly allowance again, but he has never step foot back to his hometown since. He expressed that he doesn’t hate his mom, but he still feels broken and disappointed for how he was treated.
It’s always great to practice kindness and compassion with people around us as we don’t know what they’re going through. Please don’t take your family for granted as you don’t see what they’ve done for you.
