“I feel bad” – M’sian Afraid to Tell GF About Splitting Bills, Ends up in RM27K Credit Card Debt

A man typically pays for the bill when they’re out dating. Or should they? There is certainly no harm in paying for your other half’s part if you can, but what if it leaves you in debt?

A Malaysian man who has been with his partner for over 2 years, he happily pays the bill all the time when they’re dining out, but here’s the problem. It leaves him in huge credit card debt. Does this imply his partner is a high-maintenance person? Let’s look at their bills and you be the judge.

“We often eat in cafes, hotpot and BBQ restaurants. We spend at least RM200 on a meal,” the man revealed.

Not only that but when the couple is on vacation, 2 to 3 days of a staycation is inevitable. One would usually be honest with the partner if there’s too much on his plate but the man feels bad to do so.

“I wanted to tell her to split the bill but as a boyfriend, I feel bad. So I always pay for everything.”

The interest and the debt go up and up

Fast forward a year later, he noticed that his credit card debt has increased over time, and the high interest is not making things easier for him, which prompted him to lose a lot of sleep.

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“I’ve always wanted to tell her about it but the imagination of her disappointing expression and the possibility of her breaking up with me frighten me.”

The man then admitted that his credit card debt has gone up to a whopping RM27,000!

“I can’t tell anyone around me. I think I’m a failure.”

“Be honest, and see where this goes”

Netizens had a lot to say about this situation but most of them agreed on 1 thing – the man should be honest before things take a turn for the worse.

“Shouldn’t have spent too much in the beginning, and you should’ve been honest about your financial situation. She’ll understand you if she loves you.”

“Both of you should be honest with each other. Don’t spend more than you can and end up in debt.”

“Just my 2 cents. You both should be honest with each other and not hide things. If you want things to go forever, can you cover all the expenses? You should sit down and have a discussion if you plan to be with her forever.”

“Be honest, and see where this goes. If she understands, then go ahead. If not, it’ll stress you up. If you still don’t have the guts to be honest, then just break up. Stress-free and debt-free.”

“How long can an unhealthy relationship last? Stop prolonging the pain.”

Fellow lovebirds, are you honest with each other about what’s bothering you, be it financial, emotional, or work?

Also read: 287,411 Malaysians Have Been Declared Bankrupt as of March 2022, Most are Young Working Adults