Do you agree that one of the worst things that you can do to your partner is to betray and cheat on them? While there may be many reasons that a person would resort to cheating, the general consensus is that cheating when you are in a committed relationship is wrong.
This Malaysian guy had a heartbreaking experience when his girlfriend of four years cheated on him and took to Facebook to seek for netizens’ advice.
He shares how his girlfriend is currently studying in KL, and recently she got to know a new friend, a male DJ.
He went on, “But he’s not really a DJ, but those players that go around to prey on girls. The worst thing is he had an affair with my girlfriend and they had sexual relations while she was still together with me.”
He then gives a little backstory about their relationship.
“We have been together for four years and I have sacrificed so much for her. Usually when she comes to Penang, I will fetch her back to KL and then make the lonely journey back again that night because I need to work the next day. I do that because I love her and want to accompany her safely home.”
“Normally I am very frugal in my daily spending, because I want to save more money so that I can give her a better life. But this guy, he managed to seduce her with a few sweet nothings, and just like that, my girlfriend got cheated by him. They had sex twice, but after that my girlfriend found out that he had many other girls on the side, so she decided to leave him.”
He continues to elaborate on how his girlfriend cheated on him. That’s so sad!
“She told me that they had only known each other for a few days and then they slept together. In fact, they were even together on New Year’s Eve when I called my girlfriend because I wanted to wish her Happy New Year and that we had managed to make it another year as a couple.”
“But she didn’t answer my call, and only return my call a few hours later and even scolded me. Actually she was with the DJ just now and stayed overnight at his house, meanwhile I was worried about her and sat up waiting for her call until 3.00am.”
“Actually I only found out all of these recently, a few days before my birthday when she confessed everything to me and asked me to forgive her. I was heartbroken and told her that all the riches in the world couldn’t buy love for her, but she betrayed me and slept with another guy.”
“Are promises and faithfulness still worth anything these days? My girlfriend wants to start over and wipe the slate clean with me. What should I do?”
The majority of netizens who commented said that he should forget about her and move on. They said, “Don’t be silly, you can find a better girl. If you forgive her, you will always have this thorn in your heart. Can you really forget what happened when she betrayed you? Ask her if you did the same thing is she able to forgive you? Don’t get back together just because you are used to having her by your side.”
Another said, “Actually she came back to you because she found out the other guy has many girls, and not because she realised that she loves you more. What’s the point? If a person can betray you once, they can do it again.”
But there were actually netizens who had the same experience as him and said that they forgave their girlfriends. They said, “I had the same experience but after choosing to forgive her, our relationship actually got stronger and more loving compared to last time. Perhaps she was just confused for that moment, because as human beings, we all make mistakes. Maybe you can give her one more chance if you really love her and if she does it again then leave her for good.”
It seems that love is so complicated! Perhaps we should just stay single instead!
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