After A Four Year Relationship That Ended Like A Broken Glass, I Was A Wreck

A broken heart isn’t easy to mend, it takes time to heal.

Well, a filipino girl shares her experience of how she slowly moved on from a painful breakup. How she finally stopped pouring tears for someone who has already left. And I’m sure some of us could use it.

She writes,

“After a four year relationship that ended like a broken glass, I was a wreck.

To be honest, I used to be the kind of girl who only felt her worth from my ex’s compliments. His I love you’s made me feel beautiful. His kisses and hugs made me feel wanted. I was so focused on loving him that when he left, I was a wreck I didn’t even know how to be happy anymore.

It’s not easy to move on.

It takes time actually especially when that someone became part of your daily routine. Tears were my breakfast in the morning and dinner before I sleep. Someone told me, “Instead of killing yourself why don’t you start healing yourself?” And that’s when it hit me like a rocketship.

And one day, I started dating myself. I learned how to enjoy my own company. I started watching a movie ALONE, reading a romance book while taking a sip of my favorite coffee ALONE, walking in the street while listening to Beatles ALONE and it feels amazing in my every core.

I started to focus on my job and school. I hang out with my friends/workmates. I enjoy talking to my Mom. I travel as much I can. I do something new. I learn something different. I crave for adventure. I seek for improvement.

Tell you what girls, dating someone else that is better than your ex isn’t the key to move on from the pain you’re feeling right now.

You can only move on when you start to value yourself as a woman and to know your worth without minding anyone’s perspective about you. Instead of looking for someone better than your past, be better and be the best version of you. Being selfish isn’t bad. Love yourself first before anyone else. Chin up and make the world your runway. Trust me, it feels fucking amazing.”

– Q

Contributed to us by WOB reader, Yang.