It’s natural for us to get into relationships even while we’re still studying in college or universities. In fact, some even experience puppy love during secondary school or even younger!
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While it is often a (outdated) tradition for the guy to pay when couples go on dates, we’re all about gender equality now and it doesn’t hurt for the lady to pick up the tab or even split it, too! But of course, every couple has their own preference!
However, a recent post on UTAR Confessions page went viral where a girl complained about her now ex-boyfriend and why they broke up. She wrote,
“If you have a boyfriend who is always super calculative towards you and would even ask for a few ringgit back for the food he had bought for you, do you think your relationship can still go on?”
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“He bought a packet of noodles for me which costs RM5.50, so I paid him back but he said that it was not enough as he had added extra noodles for me which costs an additional RM1.50. So I immediately took out RM2 to return his money. It’s not that I don’t want to pay him, but he didn’t tell me that he got additional noodles.”
“Actually, similar incidents have happened several times. I’m your girlfriend, do you need to be so calculative about that few ringgit?”
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“Also, this month’s petrol prices increased, so that day he reminded me that we went to Ipoh to watch a movie last week. Immediately, I took out RM20 from my purse and told him it was for the cost of petrol. At first he refused to take the money but I insisted and he accepted the money.”
The girl shared another incident where her boyfriend offered to pick her up from a bus stop while it was raining. At first, she was happy because apparently he had never offered to do so before.
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“The next day, he told me that normally he would share the fuel costs with his other friends who carpooled along with him to class. Then he asked me, ‘But I’ve picked you up previously so how do you suggest we share the cost?’ I told him that he had only picked me up once and if he really wanted the money, he could ask his friends what to do.”
“After he consulted his friends, they told him that it was fine if I didn’t pay since I was his girlfriend.”
Seeing as they were both students and not earning any money of their own, the girl said that she understood about going Dutch, but this was taking it a little too far.
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She ends her post saying, “I’ve tried discussing it with him but he doesn’t understand the issue because he said his friends were all the same. Since we were using our parents’ money, we should make it clear. Does he really think that he can get a girlfriend without spending a single cent on her?”
“Sorry, he can say I’m materialistic but I cannot accept this kind of relationship. I hope he will be able to find a partner who can fulfill what he wants because I can’t.”
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“All I want is a boyfriend who isn’t being so calculative with me by asking me to pay a few ringgit because the meal had additional noodles, eggs or meat.”
The post went viral, with many netizens debating either side of the couple’s behaviour and some of them sharing their own experiences.
It doesn’t matter whose side you are on, because ultimately everyone is looking for a partner who is compatible with them.
Let’s hope they both find partners they deserve!
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