“When are you getting married? What about kids? How much do you make? Why so little?”
With Raya in less than a week, many of us have to brace ourselves for the million-dollar questions from the Makciks, to which sometimes we don’t even have an answer for the questions. On her TikTok post @frouhaha, a woman from Singapore, Fariza kindly shared some tips on how you can avoid being a toxic Makcik so that “people will still love you 20 years down the road”.
First and foremost, Fariza believes that everyone should avoid commenting on how others look.
“You’re not gonna comment on people’s bodies. You’re not gonna say how big or how small they look, because it’s not nice.”
Apart from that, being compared doesn’t make us feel good too, especially at times when we should be celebrating. Fariza also reminded the aunties out there not to compare ANYTHING.
“You’re not gonna compare salaries, marriages. Because when someone has more, that means someone has less and we don’t make to make them feel bad on Raya.”
An advice can come in handy sometimes but NOT when nobody asks for it. Fariza added that it’s not a good idea to offer unsolicited advice, especially when no one asks for it and when you’re not involved in their lives.
“Give a genuine compliment, not a backhand compliment.”
Some might think that if there are too many restrictions, then what are we supposed to talk about when we gather? To Fariza, there are far more relevant topics that we can discuss.
“The scorching weather, the tasty Kuihs, podcasters arguing, Ramadhan Bazaar. Discuss.”
Detaching from something that can ruin your day
In a brief conversation with WORLD OF BUZZ, Fariza said that she would choose to detach from the situation if she was stuck in the conversation.
“I would usually walk away and choose not to engage. I think these comments can ruin your day, especially when you know that person has ill intentions.”
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Fariza also told WORLD OF BUZZ that it’s better for her (and anyone else) to walk away than say hurtful words which might escalate the situation. You can listen to what Fariza had to say below.
@frouhaha Imagine how NICE everyone will be by the time we’re old #hariraya #raya2024
♬ original sound – fariza | big sis energy – fariza | big sis energy
Of course, Fariza means no harm by sharing these tips. It’s the festive season, everyone wants to be happy, especially our Muslim friends who have soldiered through the month of Ramadhan.
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