It is truly rare to find someone who will love you when you have nothing, as that means that they love you for who you are rather than what you have.
But, what if you become successful while your partner remains in the same position as before?
A Malaysian woman took to the XUAN Play Facebook page to anonymous seek advice over whether she should break things off with her boyfriend of 8 years because she cannot relate to him anymore after becoming successful.
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She wrote, “I am a woman who is almost 30-years-old. I am financially independent and am a small lady boss. I bought a house and a car by myself. But, the reality of things is a bit cruel. I have been in love with my boyfriend for 8 years. He has been with me since I had nothing, but things have changed.”
“In the past 8 years, I have been making progress, but he has been limited by his salary. After all, he is a worker. Although he is 4 years older than me, I earn 5 to 6 times more than him.”
She went on to emphasise that it’s not just his income that bothers her but also the fact that they can no longer relate to each other.
“It’s not just income. Our ideas and consumption are getting more and more different. Sometimes, it is difficult to communicate. I often share my troubles of being a boss with him, but he can’t understand it.”
Love isn’t enough?
The woman explained that her boyfriend has a great personality and loves her very much, but she doesn’t feel like that’s enough for her anymore.
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“As my business grows bigger and bigger, I have begun to feel like he is not good enough. I often complain that he doesn’t understand me and despite dotting on me endlessly, he can’t give me material support and a sense of security in the future.”
“I’m wondering, is this the kind of love that I really want? I am a very ambitious woman and I am easily attracted to capable men. In these 8 years of changes, because I have surpassed him, I can no longer find a point that I can admire. In addition to being good to me, there is nothing,” she said.
She went on to share that she constantly thinks of breaking up with her boyfriend, but worries that she might become “an older, leftover woman” as she is almost 30-years-old.
“If I were not so ambitious, we would not have these differences and barriers. I am reluctant to say goodbye to this 8-year relationship, but I am afraid that our gap will become bigger and bigger. What should I do?” she asked.
Netizens are divided over this matter, with some saying that a strong, successful woman doesn’t need love while others believe she would be throwing away a good man that loved her when she had nothing.
What do you think she should do? Do feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.
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