When it comes to love, action speaks louder than words and many people would go above and beyond for the ones they love.
Just recently, a Malaysian man has shared his feelings onto a Facebook page. In his post, he said, “Am I just a tool to this girl? I admit that I have feelings for her and I’m willing to help her run errands or put in the effort to show her that I like her.”
He mentioned that he would often help her finish her assignments and walk her dog, but one thing that he has been doing every day is buy her breakfast.
“Just a few days ago, I was sick, and I didn’t manage to buy her breakfast. She got mad at me and she’s giving me an attitude now. She wouldn’t really talk to me and would only respond to me occasionally,” he said.
He expressed that because of this incident, he is experiencing an awakening where he realised that he is being used.
“I realised that I didn’t have to do all those things for her. It’s not an obligation, I was just doing it because I like her, but why is she treating it as if it’s an obligation? I’m not even her boyfriend.”
He then ended the post saying, “I know we’re supposed to put in an effort when we’re trying to pursue someone, but I don’t think I’m required to put myself down so low to be entitled for some attention or love, right?”
Netizens were divided
Many netizens couldn’t stand to see what’s happening and here’s what some of them said:
“You were unwell and all she cared about was the fact that she didn’t get her breakfast. You’re not even in her heart. Please invest the time onto yourself and once you’re the best version of yourself, you will find the love you desire.”
Another commented, “You will meet someone who is better, you have to put in time to make yourself better.”
However, some users made fun of his efforts and agreed that he was a tool for acting that way.
“Have you ever bought breakfast for your own parents?”
“”You should be confident, yes, you’re a ‘tool’,” said a netizen.
Relationships are a give and take and often requires effort put in by both sides. If you’re not ready for a relationship, please do not give the other party false hope.
Have you ever experienced something like this?
Also read: “He didn’t pay for our first date.” – M’sian Complains About Her Date Who Did Not Pay For Her Meal
