In this fast-paced world, everyone is rushing towards success and achievements in the shortest time possible. That being said, many young adults nowadays would often feel bad about themselves even though they’re doing the best that they can.
In a post shared on a Chinese radio station 8FM881, this man said,
“I’m 25 this year and I’ve been working for 3 years. My salary is at RM5,000 a month and I’m a person who gets insecure and would often feel really bad about myself.
Recently, I’ve reconnected with a girl I used to like back in my university days. 5 years ago, we were both just students but now I see that she is doing so well in her career, but I’m just an employee working for someone else.”
He expressed his feelings saying that he thinks she was right for rejecting him 5 years back.
“I’ve been single my entire life and for the longest time, I always desired love. But now, I think it’s best if I don’t go out and ruin other people’s life”, he said.
He then ended his post asking for advice on how to increase his self-esteem and stop feeling bad about himself.
Many netizens empathised with his situation and here’s what they said:
“You need to work on improving yourself. Talk less and do more, one day when you look back at yourself, you’ll realise that you’ve become more confident than you ever were. Seeking validation from other people is a temporary fix for your problems.”
“What’s your definition of success career wise? Some people start earlier in life, some start later. Sometimes, it doesn’t only depend on the opportunity given to you, it also depends on where you are in life and if you’re ready for the opportunity. Just be yourself and learn new things, as long as you’re improving every day, success will come one day. Don’t compare yourself to other people, just focus on improving yourself. Keep it up!”
“This would depend on yourself. Outsiders like us can’t help much, you’ll have to try to overcome it yourself and maybe think of it from another perspective.
For example:
- Your salary is at RM5,000 a month, why would you still feel bad about yourself? What about those who are only earning Rm3,000?
- Maybe the girl who you liked doesn’t compare herself to other people’s progress?
- Time will change everyone’s perspective; a lot can happen in 5 years.
At the end of the day, these are just words, it really depends on you. Keep up the good work!
“There’s this phrase that says, the more you compare, the worst you’ll feel, and I think it’s true. Your salary isn’t that bad, there isn’t a need for you to compare. As long as you’re striving to improve yourself and live your life, that’s enough. You need to learn how to love yourself, before someone else comes and love you. When the flower blooms, the butterflies will come, if you’re doing the best, God will handle the rest. Keep it up!”
“Here’s something you need to slowly process, everyone has a different way of spending their money, if you’re with someone from a different world, it’ll take a toll on you.”
As social media users, often times we’d stumble across posts like these. This is a gentle reminder to always be kind and take things with a pinch of salt.
What do you think he should do to stop feeling insecure? Let us know in the comments below!
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