During our grandparents’ time, arranged marriage was a norm and largely practised, no matter the race or religion.
Falling in love after marriage might have worked back then, but now, although arranged marriage is still practised by a few families, most of the time, the couple will face an uphill task – which is making the marriage work.
“Cinta selepas nikah” itu bagus dan sangat bagus.
Tetapi ada juga kes seram sejuk berlaku asbab “cinta selepas nikah”.
Dalam islam pun ada lalui fasa pertunangan untuk berkenalan lebih rapat kan?
Tetapi… ini cerita betul. Dari rakan sendiri.
— Ayu Aziz (@ayuazizz) September 6, 2018
Ayu Aziz shared on Twitter a story about her friend, Aini, who went through an arranged marriage which ended badly.
Aina’s a good child, in her 20s, and she was not a believer in falling in love before marriage. She felt that it was just a waste of time. Hence, she had asked her parents to look for anyone that they felt was suitable and good to be her husband.
At a wedding, her parents met with a lady that was interested in making Aini her daughter-in-law, so, she introduced her to the son, Mirul.
A week after their introduction, Mirul’s parents came to Aini’s house to explain their intention, to unite both of them. At that time, she was not at home but was at her college. Without informing or asking her opinion, her parents agreed to the proposal.
As a good daughter, she also agreed and both of them got engaged. Within the 3-month duration of their engagement, they contacted each other once or twice through WhatsApp and phone calls.
They got married in a simple yet beautiful wedding and a month after tying the knot, she got pregnant.
source: RNZ
Sadly, Mirul suddenly changed. He would be so angry whenever she had her pregnancy sickness. He would throw stuff and scream vulgar words towards her, but when her parents were there, he would be the kind son-in-law. Such a great actor.
When confronted, Mirul revealed that actually he did not want to marry her. He was forced by his parents too and when she asked whether he was seeing anyone, he kept quiet.
She tried to make their marriage work. She wore beautiful clothes, cooked delicious meals for him but he would still treat her the same.
One day, she went home with a surprise gift for her husband and upon reaching, she saw Mirul’s car parked in front of the house.
She looked for him all over the house but could not find him and when she opened the door to their room, her heart broke.
Source: Masterfile
She saw her husband in bed, with another man! She started to cry and cry while holding her soon-to-be-born child, questioning God why did this happen to her. Mirul stood up, rushed towards her and tried to comfort his devastated wife.
She asked, “What did I do to you to deserve this?” He could only cry and apologise to her for all the things he had done.
He then revealed the true story about himself. His parents knew that he had feelings towards his own gender and they sent him to a religious school to ensure he did not stay that way and because he did not want to disappoint them, he put up an act, showing that he was all “cured”.
Truthfully, he said he was in a relationship with a man since his first year of diploma. Her heart suffered so much pain after hearing this. She loved him truthfully, accepting him in her life although he was a stranger before they got married.
She held her stomach, putting his hand on her stomach too, and then she asked, “Do you love our child?” He answered, “Yes, and I love you too.”
She went on crying and pleaded to him to divorce her. They can still take care of their child together but she no longer wanted him as her husband.
Truly a heartbreaking tale for both parties.
Do you know anyone who is involved in an arranged marriage? Is it still applicable to our generation or would you rather know a person first before tying the knot with them?
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