The cycle of friendship can be an interesting yet colourful journey. As we approach various stages of our lives, our perspectives on what it takes to be a good friend and to have a good friend shifts as well. So where do people stand on precarious situations that may put your friendships in turmoil?
One Malaysian TikTok creator and influencer named Cabi recently shared an opinion of hers to her TikTok page @cheesusus, where she relayed reasons as to why she would never be actual friends with any of her friends’ boyfriends.
“This is just my opinion when it comes to guys – if we weren’t friends before you guys started dating or if I only met you through her, then I will never consider you ‘my friend’, you will always be ‘my friend’s boyfriend’,” she said in the TikTok video.
Continuing on, Cabi stated that should they mingle with each other frequently, or even if he had been dating her friend for years, she would not continue being friends with him if the duo were to break up.
“I’m not going to continue being friends with you because I only know you through her. If you are nobody to my friend, then you are nobody to me,” she added.
Going viral on the platform and receiving widespread attention, many people from around the globe chimed in with their polarising thoughts on the matter.
The vast majority of commenters agreed with Cabi’s sentiment, saying that her opinion represents the general rule of Girl Code, while others said that it is common sense and unnecessary for girls to be friends with their bestie’s partner.
“Same. That is why I always set or build boundaries between me and her boyfriend. I don’t want to get involved in someone’s relationship drama,” candidly expressed one user.
However, numerous commenters did not agree with Cabi’s opinion, adding that the proper mentality should be to view two people as just that, instead of who they are in relation to others around them.
“I don’t know man, I feel like people are so obsessed with getting, maybe, cheated on, they forget the most important part of a relationship is trust,” they expressed.
Nevertheless, there were also countless people who fell squarely in the middle of these diverging opinions, saying that friendship with a close friend’s partner is possible, but in a respectful manner. One user even shared how she was originally friends with a guy, eventually became friends with his girlfriend, and is now only friends with her since their break up.
“Personally, I think you can be friends with them, but as soon as they break up, that friendship is cut off,” wrote one person.
Watch the full TikTok video below:
@cheesusus the girls that get it, get it
What are your thoughts on the matter? Would you ever be friends with your bestie’s partner? Let us know!
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