Wedding planning involves a lot of preparation. Typically, families play a significant role in easing the burdens that the bride and groom might face during this process. But we suppose not all families approach it in the same supportive manner.
In a recent confession story shared by @meinmokhtar, an anonymous woman (let’s call her Syahirah) shared her experience of preparing her wedding.
“Each door gift shouldn’t exceed RM3”
Syahirah recently shared how she got married 2 months ago and expressed disappointment with her in-laws for not assisting in preparing for the wedding.
She explained that only she, her husband, and her family handled all the preparations. This led her husband to confront his family about their lack of involvement.
Following the confrontation, Syahirah mentioned that his sister agreed to sponsor their wedding door gifts, but with a condition that each door gift should not exceed RM3 in cost.
“His sister agreed to sponsor our door gifts but mentioned that each gift should not exceed RM3. I decided to contribute an additional RM4 per door gift, bringing the total to RM7.”
They wanted to change the colour theme at the very last minute
Syahirah explained that she and her husband had plans to purchase matching outfits for their family to wear on their wedding day.
However, their in-laws intervened and insisted on changing the family’s colour theme at the last minute because they felt the bride’s family had chosen a more attractive colour.
Syahirah and her husband decided to go along with his family’s request and changed their color theme from grey to emerald.
She’s required to pay RM450 for her sister-in-law’s event
Upon getting married, Syahirah’s sister-in-law had an upcoming family event planned. Syahirah’s father-in-law then called her repeatedly to inform her that she needed to contribute RM450 for the canopy.
“He kept calling me to say I had to pay RM450 for the canopy. I’m not financially stable, so I said I needed to discuss it with my husband first. When I did, my husband told me we only had enough to get by until the end of the month.”
Syahirah revealed that her father-in-law then started making sarcastic remarks, implying that her husband wasn’t willing to support his own family.
She has no plans in attending her in-laws event
Syahirah went on to explain that she’s not inclined to attend her sister-in-law’s event because her in-laws didn’t take her wedding seriously.
“During my wedding, they arrived late and didn’t even bother to ask about the wedding preparations. Now, when they’re hosting an event, they expect me to sponsor something? Is it wrong for me to feel this way?”
Do you think Syahirah’s feelings are justified? Share your thoughts in the comments below!