There’s always been this age-old battle on whether men should be allowed to express their emotions through crying or not.
Gender aside, there’s also a very grey area of crying out of pain and emotions, versus crying to manipulate.
This is the situation a Malaysian wife is enduring as her husband allegedly cries every time they have an argument, and she’s wondering if she’s wrong or if she’s being manipulated into letting things go. Taking to the Emosi Twitter page, she shared her dilemma.
“I just want to ask, is it normal for men to constantly sulk? Not just sulk but also cry. If our disagreements get heated, he will cry. I sometimes get confused, then I end up feeling like, I’m the one who’s wrong,” she wrote.
Giving an example, she shared that her husband stays out late almost every night to play futsal
“When I tell him to stay at home every once in a while to take care of the baby, in the end he will cry. He says I don’t understand men. That I’m ungrateful that he’s not the type of guy who goes out with other girls. What??”
Due to the constant crying, she has since decided to stay quiet.
“Now, I’m always quiet because in the end, I am the one who’s wrong. I take care of our child alone after coming back from work and he’ll go out to hang out with his friends and come home at around 11pm.”
“I didn’t see this before we got married. If I knew he was like this from the beginning, wouldn’t that have been easy?” she ended.
Many believe that it is normal for men to cry but in her case, they think her husband is, in fact, manipulating her with his tears
“It’s normal for men to cry over things that really need to be cried about, but this one is not normal, it’s manipulative, it’s wrong to cry to avoid confrontation. (He’s) good at playing with emotions to get away from conflict.”
“That’s manipulative la, right? Until you have to stay quiet and do everything yourself.”
“To simply put it, your husband just does not want to take care of the child.”
What do you think? Does her husband really have something to cry about or is he just using his tears to make her feel bad?
Do feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.
