People often say that when you get married, you’re also marrying your partner’s family.
With that being said, does this also mean that your partner’s family must always be involved in your new life with your partner?
A Malaysian woman recently took to the XUAN Play Facebook page to anonymously share how her mother-in-law has become so clingy that she can barely have private time with her husband and children.
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She wrote, “I have a mother-in-law who doesn’t know how to behave! We have been married for 10 years and have 4 children. We live with my parents-in-law. My husband is the head of the family and takes his family abroad annually, including his brothers and their children, workers and nannies.”
“In short, every time we go abroad, there is a large group of people.”
She ultimately wants to have some time away from her husband’s family, but it appears that her mother-in-law refuses to let that happen.
“Because my mother-in-law will become jealous and unhappy, we have never had a couple’s trip. There were a few times when my husband and I went back to my parents’ home during the New Year, my mother-in-law would insist on going with us,”
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“I feel like there is no space for us, no privacy, and my mother-in-law wants to go wherever we go. In the past 10 years, we have never taken our children abroad by ourselves. Every time we travel, we travel with a large group of people and my husband pays for the expenses,” she explained.
At one point, her husband agreed to take her on a family trip with just their children, but her mother-in-law still managed to weasel her way into the plans.
“My mother-in-law told my husband (after learning about our trip) that she would pay for it and invited a few relatives to go along. I know that if I object to this, it will only embarrass my husband. I just want to go on our family trip. Why is this a problem? Have I not already been generous enough?” she added.
Many have since shared their belief that the husband should learn how to draw boundaries with his mother.
“You need to have a good talk with your husband to see if he is also a problem. There must be something wrong with your mother-in-law.”
“Your husband doesn’t know how to behave.”
“Don’t you think that your husband is the problem?”
“Your husband is the problem, is he a mummy’s boy?”
How would you deal with an overly clingy parent-in-law?
Do feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.
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