Open and honest communication is 1 of the most important traits to make a relationship work, regardless of the differences between the couple.
Recently, an anonymous Malaysian man shared his dilemma and concerns about his relationship through a post on the Facebook group, Tantan Confessions Malaysia. He highlighted the gap between the income of his girlfriend & himself and how it concerned him.
BMW 3 Series & Toyota Vios
He revealed that he earns around RM4,500 per month while his girlfriend earns 2 to 3 times more than him with a 5 figure monthly wage. Due to her monthly salary, his girlfriend, who is a well-established property agent seems to have no problem in spending on whatever she wants.
“She’s driving a BMW3 Series and I’m still driving my 20-year-old Vios. She can have whatever she wants, including a plate of Caesar salad that is worth RM35”, he said.
Despite having the habit of visiting fancy restaurants, fortunately for him, his girlfriend understands his financial condition & sometimes even offers to pay for him first.
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However, it’s the gap in income that is concerning the man.
“I feel so incompatible with her. She doesn’t know I have this thought.”
Financial concern isn’t his only worry but also the circle of friends that his girlfriend has due to the nature of her work. He fears that someday, she may leave him for someone who is more on par with her.
The 28-year-old man then revealed that he has been with her since high school. While she has never complained anything about him, he promised her back then that he’ll work to earn more money and take care of her.
“But she’s doing better in life, and I’m still climbing my way up slowly. I feel so useless”, he sighed.
She may be okay, but her family?
His concerns don’t end there. His girlfriend’s family is part of his major worries.
While his partner may be okay with how he’s doing, he worries that her family may not be too fond of that. In fact, he feels that her family has been giving some hints to him.
“‘If you can’t take care of my daughter, let her find someone else & stop wasting her youth’ – That’s the feeling that I get from her family”, he said.
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He said that he has always wanted to confess to his girlfriend his feelings but he fears a breakup will follow.
“I don’t want to break up. I want to tell her how I feel, but how do I communicate with her?”
#ttc6885我的女朋友比我有钱。我的月薪就只有4.5千，扣除epf的话，我一个月才有3.9-4千在手上。她是个卖地产的 rising…
Posted by Tantan Confessions Malaysia on Monday, May 30, 2022
As long as you’re trying, buddy!
His post has gained the attention of netizens and lucky for him, most of them showed their support and assured him that working hard to improve himself is the key.
“Work hard to improve yourself, make yourself smarter and more valuable. Or change your line of a career with higher pay, but self-discipline is the most important thing so you’ll be successful in the future. Best of luck!”
“It’s good that you met her. Good luck! As long as she doesn’t feel that you’re not trying at all.”
“If you can’t beat them, join them! Have you ever thought about leaving your comfort zone and joining her line of career?”
“Communicate properly. It’s the most important thing in a relationship.”
“Just appreciate her.”
What do you think the man can do so that he will feel better? Should he keep trying to be better, or he is just right on the track?
Also read: “It’s simple” – M’sian Couple Shares How They Managed To Save RM13,359 in Just 365 Days!
