Unspoken anger between family members causes the most damage, mentally and emotionally.
Just recently, a married Malaysian woman ranted about giving money to her mother every month, which took away at least 20% of her monthly income. In a Facebook post by Xuan Play, the woman said the 20% of her income that was given to her mum DOES NOT include other expenses.
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“Sometimes, I’ll get her daily necessities, skincare, and even brought her for vacation overseas. My husband cared for me financially, including the expenses for our children.”
It may not be a problem at 1st but day after day, it’s bound to take a toll on us not only financially, but also emotionally when we have no idea how to convey the message properly.
“I secretly wish she doesn’t live long”
The woman, who has a lot of siblings said that it has always been her sister and herself who give money to her mum every month. Life is sometimes unfair, and it turns out that her mum loves the brothers who don’t contribute financially even more.
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“I gave my mum RM150 every month when I only made RM1,600. She told me it wasn’t even that much. I will never forget that pain.”
Recently, she brought her mum to the hospital for a checkup after the her mum said she wasn’t feeling well, and that’s when she noticed something.
“I secretly wish she won’t live long so I can stop paying for everything, and get what I’ve always wanted. My car, the places I’ve always wanted to go, my favourite handbag.”
She highlighted that she does not feel a bit of guilt because she knows she has done everything she could to take care of her mum.
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“But such is life. The more you do, the more you’re ignored, even by your own mother. My husband recently started to tell me he’s unhappy about my mother, which I don’t blame him.”
We can’t imagine being in her shoes. Only effective communication will solve this issue between both parties but it will not be a pleasant “chit-chat”. What would you do if you were stuck in this situation?
