Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to dating and relationships. Some prioritise looks, others value personality, while some find it easier to connect with “someone less intelligent”.
In a recent confession shared by @twtsecretsmy, an anonymous woman (let’s call her Syafinaz) opened up about her struggles with her boyfriend’s ideal preferences in a partner.
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They’ve been together for 2 years
Syafinaz shared that she is currently dating her boyfriend, Suffian (pseudonym), for the past 2 years. She described him as a nice, good-looking, and financially stable man who always takes her on dates and cares for her when she’s sick.
Overall, he emotionally and physically takes care of her. But, despite his prince charming qualities, he comes with baggage, as she couldn’t help but mention that her boyfriend has a very specific idea of his dream girl.
“He has a weird fixation on women with fair skin and a slender physique, whom he defines as ‘beautiful’. While he rates me as an 8/10 for my decent looks and slim figure, but my skin isn’t exactly fair.”
Since the breakup with his ex, he’s unsure about who the right person is for him
Syafinaz mentioned that Suffian has a thing for fair-skinned women and often notices their complexion when he finds someone attractive.
Besides that, she said he’s not keen on talking about marriage, bringing up his past engagement breakup as the reason he’s not ready to commit yet.
“Since breaking off his engagement with his ex-fiancée, he’s been uncertain about who’s right for him. He mentioned focusing on his career and seems unsure about marriage now. Interestingly, he used to be the one asking about marriage, settling down, and even met my family a few times.”
He’s looking for someone who’s less intelligent
Despite Suffian acknowledging Syafinaz’s qualities as a good decision-maker, appreciating her thoughts and reliability, he still refused to marry her.
To add to her confusion, he complimented her intelligence but also expressed a preference for someone less intelligent, believing it would be easier for him to manage.
“He said he wants someone who relies on him completely, so if he messes up, she has no choice but to stick around. Funny enough, he’s also complained about dating people he thinks aren’t smart. He can’t even make up his mind about what he really wants, which makes him seem kinda clueless.”
She keeps wondering if he’s just keeping her around as a safety net, feeling exhausted and realising that walking away and starting fresh wouldn’t be simple for her.
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