Marriage is a joyous occasion where it unites 2 families. That being said, all couples who are getting married would want their family’s blessings and presence at the ceremony.
Just recently, a Malaysian woman has shared her dilemma regarding her wedding plans. In her post she said,
“My wedding is in 2 weeks and because we decided to combine our events, about 70% of the wedding errands have been settled. We’re having our wedding at a hotel and have agreed to only invite 200 people. We allocated 100 for my in-laws and another 100 on my side”, she shared.
“My in-laws have decided to invite more than 100 people and is asking for me to change the wedding from a seated concept to a buffet concept so it could accommodate the guests they invited”, she continued.
She went on saying that she feels like it is unfair, and they even had an argument because of this.
“After our argument, my mother in law told me that if we aren’t going to change our seating plans and wedding concept, she will not attend both the wedding & reception. I feel so stressed out thinking about it and I know my fiancé is too”, she added.
The woman also mentioned how her in-laws were saying that if she refuses to change the concept, it will mean that she cares about her guests more than her own family/in-laws.
“My in-laws have said that if we don’t agree, my fiancé’s side of the family will not offer their blessings and would instruct their guests to not show up”, she shared.
She then ended the post by saying,
“I’m thinking of breaking the marriage off because what my in-laws have said to me is really hurtful. Marriage is a long and forever commitment, I don’t want to walk into this marriage knowing that my relationship with my in-laws aren’t in great terms. What should I do?”
Many netizens offered their advice and here’s what some of them said:
“Who is paying for the wedding? The groom? Then the groom’s family decide. If it’s the bride’s family, they get to decide. You invite 200 people but if more show up, there won’t be enough food. Whoever that invites extra would have to top up the bill. To me, a reception without enough food isn’t a great reception.”
“Whoever pays gets to decide. If you’re not paying you shouldn’t be voicing your opinion.”
“Whoever pays for the catering and hotel gets to decide. If you were to cancel 2 weeks prior to the wedding, it wouldn’t be feasible. Maybe you can accommodate by ordering more food. Once you’re done with the reception, remember to tell your husband that you wouldn’t want to live your in-laws.”
“I think you should just split the wedding reception. You can have your wedding your way and they can have theirs.”
What would you have done if you were in her position? Would you change the concept of your wedding for the sake of your in-laws, or would you continue having the wedding you wanted without the blessings of your new family?
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