One of the ways to move forward in a relationship is to get engaged/married. But of course, marriage is never easy. There are many components needed in order to make a marriage work and one of the toughest parts would be the financial aspects of it.
Just recently, a Malaysian woman shared her experience on a famous Twitter page, TwtWedding. In her post, she mentioned how she has been dating her boyfriend for 3 years and she earns more money than him.
“We’ve been thinking about moving forward by tying the knot but I’m having second thoughts. We’re trying to save money for our wedding. I’ll be straightforward and say that I earn more money than him and he’s okay with that.
The problem now is that I cover most of our expenses (food and entertainment) when we are together because his pay isn’t enough to cover anything”, she said.
She expressed that she is feeling concerned because his current salary isn’t even enough to cover his own expenses, let alone a wedding.
“I can see that he is trying hard to make this work and I sympathise with him. Unfortunately, with his monthly commitments, he doesn’t have much money left. I’ve thought about asking him to get a second job, but his current job is already taxing”, she added.
She then ended the post asking for advice from netizens on what she should do.
“I do love him but I’m not sure how we can move forward in this relationship. Looking at his financial state, I feel like he isn’t ready for another commitment by getting married”, she said.
Many netizens have shared their thoughts
“Firstly, learn the definition of compulsories vs necessities. Secondly, proceed with financial planning. House, food and clothing are compulsories that your future husband must provide. Cars and household equipment etc are necessities but not compulsories.”
“You should find someone you’re compatible with. The pain of a breakup is temporary as compared to having to endure paying for everything the rest of your lives. You need a lot of patience to succeed. ”
“My fiancé’s salary is also lower than mine but he is actively job hopping trying to look for one that pays well. If he is ready to marry you, he will do what he can to make sure he is financially ready. If he can’t even take care of himself now, how can he take care of you when you’re married.
Marriage life could be difficult but with compromise, things will work out for the best. Have you experienced a similar situation? Let us know in the comments below!
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