Insecurities in a relationship are common and they should be addressed to avoid conflicts in the future, but how do you determine if insecurity is too much or unreasonable? Is there a measure for insecurities?
Recently, the Facebook page MY Malaysia shared an anonymous confession about a girl who is afraid that her boyfriend may not be able to resist temptations. Due to the nature of his work, the woman said that it’s a requirement for her boyfriend to meet clients regularly, and despite making himself clear that he’s taken, she mentioned that her boyfriend still has a lot of fans from the opposite sex.
“He told them that he’s not single, but there are still women who try to tempt him.”
She believes that her partner is in the spotlight due to his good look, which, to her, resembles Sehun, one of the famous members of the K-Pop group, EXO.
The woman also revealed that she would be away for work for 3 weeks starting next week, and this is starting to worry her especially thinking about all the said “temptations”.
At the end of her post, the woman sought help from fellow ladies and asked for suggestions on how to make sure her boyfriend makes it through the temptations.
“He’ll cheat if he wants to, sis”
It did not take long for her post to get flooded with suggestions from ladies, who mostly agreed that she should work on her insecurities instead. They also believed that regardless of what she does, it will not stop her partner from cheating, if he ever does.
“Your imagination brings you insecurities. He wants to cheat, he’ll do it anyway and he wouldn’t wait for you to be away for work. Be confident.”
Another netizen said that she should trust the process and added that the relationship would be pointless if she’s always fearful.
“Go with the flow. If he cheats when you’re away, at least you know the kind of person he truly is. If he’s yours, he’ll always be yours. If he isn’t, your fears don’t mean anything.”
“If he loves you, rain and thunder will not break you both. If he does not, a simple thing will break you both. 3 weeks will be the ultimate test, let’s see what happens.”
“If he wanted to cheat, he would’ve cheated when he was out meeting clients. That’s what my manager did when he lied to his wife. People in the sales department are flexible when it comes to their time management, so anything can happen.”
Additionally, another user said that the 3 weeks of being away from her partner will be the ultimate test for the relationship.
“Trust and faith are important, without them, the relationship will be tiring. A man will cheat if he wants to, regardless of what you do. Take these 3 weeks as a test for him. If he cheats, you can still save yourself. If he’s strong enough to resist temptation, then that’s good.”
Fellow lovebirds, have you ever spoken about your insecurities to your significant others? How did you both manage to reach common ground?
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