Nobody wants uninvited guests attending their parties or visiting their houses. But what’s the right thing to do when the uninvited guests are your own family members?
In an anonymous confession on the Twitter page Emosi, a Malaysian woman sought advice from fellow netizens as she was at a dead end regarding her in-laws coming over to her house unannounced.
“Imagine you’re at work, and you receive a call from your in-laws who tell you that they’re right at your doorstep. Won’t you be mad?”
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Not only that but according to the tweet, her in-laws would come in a large group of people and would suddenly decide to spend the night without informing her or her husband in advance. The woman has brought up the matter to her husband many times but to no avail. Her husband himself can’t seem to find the right way to tell his parents about their “unannounced and unanticipated” arrival.
The matter often leaves the woman feeling distressed and moody, and things don’t take a turn for the better whenever her husband asks the wrong question at the wrong time:
“Do you not like my family?”
Keluarga mentua suka datang rumah secara mengejut. Dah sampai depan rumah baru bagitahu. pic.twitter.com/vk170yI8vY
— Emosi (@ConfessTweetMY) November 15, 2022
The anonymous tweet has gained the attention of many netizens who resonated with the woman, and they had a lot to say.
“Why do the husbands like to ask stupid questions? It’s common sense.”
“Because the husband knows that his family doesn’t mind. He’s not the one cooking and cleaning, he’s the one mingling around. He’ll only help when asked. The anxiety when guests come unannounced, only the wives resonate.”
Another netizen said that in-laws are welcome anytime, but it’s only common for them to have the courtesy to inform before visiting.
“Some people take this matter lightly. I always tell my husband to tell his plan in advance, even before visiting his own siblings’ house. We never know what others might be occupied with, and at least we won’t be serving only biscuits and tea.”
“As wives, we know too well the anxious feeling when guests come uninvited. Sometimes, the house is not even clean, sometimes we have not even showered, and sometimes we don’t even have anything that can be served instantly.”
“If you’re coming uninvited and unannounced, at least have the courtesy to bring food for the owner of the house as well. Thank God it’s a norm in my house to do so instead of troubling the host. But it’s never good to come uninvited or unannounced. They might be busy or away,” said a netizen.
Visiting each other is undeniably a good way to bond, but do you agree that informing others in advance is the right thing to do? Have you experienced such situations in your life?
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