30yo M’sian Feels Stressed As Her Parents Are Pressuring Her To Get Married by Setting Her Up With Guys

There’s a stigma in Asian culture where if a woman isn’t married by a certain age, they’ll be labelled as “leftovers”. Unfortunately, this mindset has been imprinted on many older generations and this would mean that they may start pressuring their children to get married.

Just recently, a Malaysian woman has shared her feelings on a Twitter confession page. In her post she mentioned that,

“I am feeling really stressed out as my parents are pressuring me to get married. I’m fine being single and I’m happy with my current life but my parents are worried and they keep asking me to get married. ”

She shared that her parents are asking her to dress nicely to work and that she should smile more often and try to befriend guys.

“But how can you force a relationship am I right? It’s getting out of hand because one of my dad’s friends came over to our house and expressed his interest in dating me. He is about the same age as my dad, how could I accept it?!” she said.

She then continued saying that her parents are asking her to try and get to know that ‘uncle’. She also mentioned that the uncle once called her and she didn’t know how to respond, making the call very awkward.

“Must I get married to feel like I’ve ‘achieved’ everything in life? It’s starting to feel like if I don’t get married then I’m not deemed as successful”, she said.

Many netizens were shocked to see that her dad would try to set her up with his friend and here’s what some of them said:

“Please don’t marry him, just enjoy your life until you meet your love-life partner. If you marry you dad’s friend, your dad might side with his friend more. Your relationship may turn sour.”

“Your dad shouldn’t have done this. Even if he wanted to introduce someone to you, he should find someone who is suitable for you. I feel bad for you, if he was introducing his friend’s son, it’s still justifiable.”

“Just tell your dad you don’t want to marry someone that old.”

Marriage shouldn’t be a definition of success and one should only get married when they feel ready as it’s a huge commitment. Are your parents pressuring you to get married? Let us know in the comments below. 

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