A woman has opened up about a difficult situation with her current boyfriend after her family showed disapproval, even going as far as comparing him to her ex.
In an anonymous post, Amelia (a pseudonym) recalled her three-year relationship with her former boyfriend, which shaped her expectations of being treated “like a princess.”
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The “bare minimum” struggle
Amelia described her past relationship as “emotionally draining and painful,” claiming she only ever received the bare minimum, as her ex assumed she didn’t need more because she’s mature and independent.
“I’m a woman born in the 90s, and I run my own business. My ex was quite chauvinistic. Because I’m mature and independent, he assumed I didn’t need to be pampered or treated like a princess. Most of the time, all I got was the bare minimum,” she wrote.
Finding happiness with a younger partner
In contrast, her current, younger boyfriend finally gives her the “princess treatment” she had always wanted.
“A year after my ex and I broke up, I met my current boyfriend. He’s younger, born in the 2000s, and works a regular job, earning less than I do. But for the first time, I really feel what ‘princess treatment’ is like with him.
“He’s also very thoughtful towards my family, often asking if I want to buy anything for them to take home. Since I live with my family, I see them more often than he does,” she explained.
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Feeling happy in her current relationship, Amelia soon ran into an unexpected challenge.
“At first, my family liked him too. We all got along well, and everything felt harmonious. But during a recent meeting, he wasn’t as warm as usual. He was quieter and didn’t smile much. His behaviour that day really wasn’t great, and he knows it too.
“He even took the initiative to explain the reason to me. I felt that as long as we understand each other, it’s okay.”
However, after that one interaction, she said her family voiced their disapproval, saying her boyfriend wasn’t good enough and refusing to see him for the time being.
“They’re not against us being together. They just ‘don’t want to see him until further notice.’ That really hurt me.”
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“Your ex-boyfriend wasn’t that bad”
Not sure how to break the news to her boyfriend, Amelia feels conflicted and admits this is something hard for her to accept.
“My ex, even though he earned more than me, really didn’t offer much else. If he had RM10,000, he’d only spend RM100 on me. But my current boyfriend, if he has RM1,000, he’d happily spend RM999 on me. And yet, I can’t bring myself to let him because I feel bad for him,” she explained.
All of this has left her feeling misunderstood by her own family and stuck in a tough spot.
“They haven’t outright opposed the relationship, but their looks and cold remarks make it difficult. I once told my family that if they didn’t approve of a guy, I could break up. But now, they haven’t clearly said no. Yet with one glance or one quiet moment, it feels like they’ve given me an indefinite ‘until further notice.’ With him, I really feel like I deserve princess treatment.”
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