M’sian Wants to be Dependent on Her Husband, Compares Herself to His Ex Who Never Had to Spend

Financials in relationships and marriages can be tricky situations unless an agreement is made prior.

But even then, how one treats their ex financially, versus how they treat their spouse should at least be similar, no?

A Malaysian woman took to the SecretsMY Twitter page to share her frustration and ask for advice over her husband splitting the household bills with her when he had paid for everything when he was with his ex-girlfriend.

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She wrote, “Hi, I need the readers’ thoughts on if I am the toxic one in this marriage.”

“My husband had gone on a vacation with his ex-girlfriend to Phuket, and he paid for everything from the food and drinks to their accommodation. In fact, his ex-girlfriend never had to spend her money while they were still in a relationship.”

Despite being the person who paid for everything in his previous relationship, the woman’s husband decided to split their household bills with her following their wedding.

She also asked whether she was wrong for wanting to be financially dependent on her husband as he did for his ex-girlfriend.

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“After he had married me, I had to pay for the car that we use. The electricity bill and the Wi-Fi bill, he has asked me to pay as well. My husband pays for the house rental and our food and drinks expenditure. I may sound childish because I am jealous, our honeymoon was just in Malaysia,”

“Even for that, we used our wedding dinner monetary gifts. I too want to be fully dependent like his previous relationship before this. Am I not the one? Is that why he’s not willing to spend on me? But, I’m his wife. Am I toxic or is what I’m feeling right now valid?” she asked.

What do you think about this? Do feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.

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