What defines a good relationship? Trust, fulfilled love languages, or is it more than that?
On the Facebook page Xuan Play, a 25-year-old Malaysian woman recently shared what’s frustrating her about her relationship, which has been going on for a year now. Her partner is 10 years older, who is doing financially well and generally, both of them have no issues when it comes to spending money for each other.
So, that’s a greenlight on the financial status, but here’s what that is not sitting so well with the girl.
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“It has been a month now without it”
Within the year, the girl has been to her partner’s house many times to spend the night. Sometimes, she has to do house chores and although she did not see this coming, she finds it acceptable. But there is something else that has caused her to wonder about the direction of their relationship.
“My sexual needs are stronger than him. I’ve spoken to him about it but so far, there hasn’t been much improvement. It’s been a month now since we last had sex,” the girl went brutally honest about her intimate life.
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Despite all the good things about her partner, including how at ease she feels around him, she has started to feel that this relationship is becoming unhealthy, and that’s because her man cannot satisfy her sexual needs. For the sake of reassurance, she used to asked him,
“Am I not pretty anymore? Is that why you don’t have sexual urges towards me?”
She added that she has a couple of men who are trying their luck to date her, which assured her that “she’s not that bad to look at”. With the state of her relationship, she’s wondering if she should continue with it.
“Times have changed”
Her post has gained many reactions from netizens, who mostly thought that she should just move on in order to be happier. However, some netizens reacted hilariously to her honest confession.
“In that case, find someone who is 10 years younger than you. You’ll be satisfied everyday.”
“Let go, move on.”
“Times have really changed. Back then, a guy would be dumped for being a pervert. Now, it’s unusual for a man to have lower sexual needs.”
“Hello, I think we need to get to know each other.”
“If you’re unhappy, just leave. No one can control your love life.”
A netizen pointed out that she basically knows what she wants, and proved her point by highlighting possible consequences in the future if she carries on with this relationship.
“If you’re marrying him, you’re probably going to drive yourself to the hospital to give birth, and take care of the infant all by yourself. Is that what you really want with a guy who basically is not participating with anything in your life?”
Well, this is a tough one. Ladies, do you see yourself staying or leaving?
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