Marriage is hard work and in order to maintain it, both parties would have to put in effort. Just recently, a man shared his feelings on his marriage. In his post he said,
“I really regret marrying a Thai girl. I was really playful 8 years ago and got a Thai girlfriend. We got married a few years later after we found out she was pregnant,” he wrote.
He then continued in his post saying that he earns about RM9,000 a month and takes care of all the household expenses.
I have to pay for:
- Kindergarten school fees: RM600
- Housing loan: RM2,500
- Car loan: RM 800
- Allowance for her family: Rm1,000
“My wife went back to Thailand with our child after our child turned 1 and due to MCO they weren’t able to travel back and now that the restrictions aren’t that tight, they came back,” he added.
He then mentioned how he had to sort through all their paperwork for her, do all the household chores, find a pre-school for their child and grocery shop.
“I have to do everything and all she does is eat her favourite Thai salad and play with her phone. She said that she doesn’t have friends and I understand that,” he wrote.
“But when I try to get her to meet some of my female friends, she wouldn’t even try to socialise. All she does is sit at a corner and use her phone,” he said.
He then expressed that he works 12-14 hours a day and he barely has anytime left. He sends his kid to school in the morning and during his office break time, he would then pick his child up from school and send him home.
“I tried discussing with my wife and was hoping that she could consider getting a driver’s licence so she could pick our kid from school, but she refused. She wouldn’t even want to walk to the nearby speed mart to get some necessities.”
He then ended his post saying that his wife has been pressuring him as she wants to move back to Thailand.
“She only cares about partying with her friends in Thailand and isn’t even thinking of our child. It’s bad enough that I have to do everything in this house and now she’s still pressuring me with this.”
“Worst thing is, when I tell my family about it, all they said was that I have to bear with this because I wanted a Thai girlfriend/wife,” he said.
Tips on how to solve the issue
Many netizens were quick to comment on this matter and here’s what they said:
“I think you should discuss how you’d like to solve this issue. If you’re unable to find a fair answer for both parties, then I think both parties are just wasting each other’s energy.”
A user commented, “If you’re unable to communicate with each other, I’d suggest for you to not waste your time. As for the child, I think you should just keep them with you.”
“I think this based on her and not her ethnicity. I have a friend who married a woman like your wife, but they got a divorce half a year later. After the woman gave birth, she just slept till noon and didn’t have a job. She also didn’t do any chores and all she did was go out with her friends,” said another.
It’s important to discuss your boundaries with your partner and always put in the effort to make a marriage work. Have you heard of anyone experiencing the same issue?
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