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Physical abuse is never acceptable. Unfortunately, this cruel act also commonly comes in the form of domestic abuse – beating from a supposed loved one.
Such is the case of a young lady who recently took to Facebook to share her harrowing experience. She wrote in a post,
“Something terrible happened. I never thought he would actually hit me, but when he did, I was filled with regret.
“I was terrified I might die.
“No matter how I tried to escape from the car, he would pull me back and hit me. My only option was to call my colleagues and an ex-boyfriend, as those were the only numbers I could remember. The altercation escalated quickly, and he hit me in the head when he didn’t like what I was saying, asking for forgiveness.
“In the end, I managed to call my ex-boyfriend for help, someone I hadn’t contacted in a while. Thankfully, he answered and helped diffuse the situation. I had previously always treated the matter lightly when he pushed my father-in-law, but now I couldn’t ignore it any longer.
“I won’t forgive him, and I no longer see him as someone without issues.
“It’s a common misconception that someone who doesn’t look bad will treat you well. Good behavior can often be a facade. People have a dark side, and karma will eventually catch up to him, haunting him for the rest of his life.”
Abusive cycle that seemed to repeat itself
In a few follow up posts, she shares how her husband is toxic by gaslighting and deflecting the responsibility onto her.
Later, he would acknowledge the beatings by apologising and promising that he will never do that again.
However, according to an exchange between her and a friend, it seems that she has suffered from domestic abuse numerous times even after her husband’s supposed promise of never doing so again.
Furthermore, just right after the abuse, he would request her to come home after taking to the clinic as if nothing ever happened.
Sign of red flags and abuse
Sadly, many people, both men and women, often find themselves trapped in a toxic cycle of verbal and physical abuse without knowing how to break free.
Recognizing the signs of domestic abuse is the first step towards escaping this harmful situation. Here are some common signs to watch out for:
- Your partner tries to control you and may even attempt to isolate you from friends and family.
- They gaslight you by blaming you for the abuse.
- Poor anger management, such as throwing items or punching walls.
- Yelling at you to undermine your self-worth.
- Overreacting to situations, escalating from calm to extreme anger.
- Most concerning of all, physical violence.
If you recognize these signs in your situation, here are some helplines in Malaysia for abuse and domestic violence:
- Talian Kasih 15999 Hotline (15999)
- Telenita Helpline (016 237 4221)
- Women’s Aid Organisation (03 3000 8858)
Also read: Indonesian Influencer Angrily Confronts Nanny for Severely Abusing Her 3yo Daughter
