M’sian Complains About Wife Not Letting Him Hang Out With Friends, Receives Mixed Reactions

All relationships including familial, platonic and romantic ones require give and take. In this process, sometimes sacrifices will have to be made.

Twitter user @annazrulan recently shared a tweet of a WhatsApp status of a man who expressed his frustration at his spouse for not letting him spend quality time with his friends.

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In the screenshot, the man said that his spouse had started to call him repeatedly 30 minutes into his outing with his friends, asking him to come home.

While he admits that his child is also his responsibility, he questioned if it is really that difficult for his spouse to take care of their child alone while he is out.

“I’m a man? I work day and night to provide for the family. I just want time to chill with my friends.”

Additionally, he asked if it was unreasonable for him to spend some time with his friends while his spouse stays with their child considering that he is the one providing for the family.

“Don’t get married then”

The post has gone viral on Twitter where users weighed in on the issue. On one hand, some people said that it is not fair for the man to spend time with his friends while his spouse bears the entire responsibility of raising their child. 

They added that, “he should not get married if he expects to still spend as much time with his friends after marriage compared to when he was still single.”   

Shared responsibility

On the other hand, others are saying that there is nothing wrong with married couples wanting some personal time.

“It is for their peace of mind.”

Those who shared the same sentiment also added that raising a child should be a shared responsibility.

Since the dynamic of every  couple or marriage is different, it is difficult to say what methods will work but some users suggest that parents can take turns taking care of their children or divide tasks. 

Friends should be more understanding

Apart from the couple, some users felt that the man’s friends should have been more understanding about his wife calling him and not mock him for it.

They suggested that spouses bring their other halves as well as their children when spending time with friends.

One Twitter user even shared a picture of him and his friends bringing along their children when meeting up for a friendly football match. How cute is that?!

What do you think? What do you suggest parents do to balance me time as well as their responsibilities? Share with us in the comments section.

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