As we live in a world where social media has become a big part of our lives, we can’t help but to try and put the best for the world to see. That being said, many people would only see the good portrayed on social media and doesn’t realise the struggles others go through.
Just recently a Malaysian man has shared his feelings on a confession page. In his post, he said, “I’m 25-years-old, what am I doing? It’s October 10 and I’m writing this at 10:42pm. I just finished work and got home not long ago. I decided to scroll through my Instagram and watch some of my friend’s Instagram stories.”
“As I was scrolling pass, I came across some old friends’ stories. I’ve not spoken to them in a while and was curious as to how they were doing so I clicked into their profile,” he explained.
He then mentioned that among the 3 friends’ profile that he clicked into included:
- A girl he used to have a crush on back in primary school is already married and has a kid that’s around 3 years old. Her pictures on her Instagram are filled with luxury/branded items,
- A guy he used to be best friends with has his own mansion, a sports car and a girlfriend who is studying in England. (They go fine dining every day),
- A guy he is acquaintances with travels around the world with his partner.
“I feel so useless about myself, I’m 25 and I’ve only been on family trips to Taiwan and Thailand. I work almost 24/7 and I earn RM3,500. I ‘d have to be careful of my spendings to be able to save up RM1,000 a month.
“I have a girlfriend but we’re not in a good place due to an incident that happened back in 2020,” he added.
“I never spend money on unnecessary things other than the occasional games that I buy to reward myself. I was never lazy when I was in university and had part time jobs throughout so that I could have some money.”
He then ended his post mentioning that he feels lost in life and is very concerned for his future as he is entering into his 30’s soon.
Netizens emphasised with him
Many netizens empathised with his situation and here’s what some of them said:
“While you’re our here comparing yourself to others, there are plenty of people out there who are hoping to have enough food on the table and that they’re able to be independent. Many people are also comparing themselves to you for living your life.”
“You shouldn’t compare yourself to other people. As you compare yourself more and more, you’ll feel worse about yourself,” said another user.
A netizen commented, “Everyone has a different timeline; you don’t need to force yourself to be the same as others. The founder of KFC also had his victory later in life.”
As hard as life may be, we hope that this serves as a reminder to not constantly compare yourself to others as it could be very taxing on your mental health.
