A Malaysian woman is questioning why she should work hard to earn money to buy expensive presents for her boyfriend when he is already doing it for her.
She anonymously shared her frustrations on DCard, after her boyfriend had shared his disappointment over a RM50 wallet that she got for his birthday when he spoils her lavishly.
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She wrote, “It was my boyfriend’s birthday, so I bought him a wallet from Shopee worth over RM50. I think a RM50 wallet for men is pretty good, right? It’s enough to hold money, there’s no need to use branded ones. After all, boys are different than girls and don’t care about the beauty of the wallet, so there’s no point in giving them branded ones.”
“When he received it, he hugged me but I could clearly see from his face that something wasn’t right. Later, he messaged me and said he was very disappointed. He even searched up the wallet model and said that I didn’t cherish him as I gave him such a cheap item. I was very sad because this is the best I can buy within my ability.”
He buys her luxury goods and takes her for fancy dinners
She admitted that her boyfriend has spent lavishly on her by buying her designer goods, taking her to expensive restaurants, giving her money and buying her a new phone.
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“He did give me a lot. I admit, he gave me Dior perfume and lipstick, he gave me pocket money and he is very diligent in finding part-time jobs to make me happy. He took me to the Gordon Ramsay restaurant on my birthday and even bought me a new phone,” she explained.
Why should I?
She ultimately believes that only one person should have to work hard in the relationship.
“But (the RM50 wallet) doesn’t mean I don’t love him. I’m just not as rich as he is. Do I need to save money and buy him expensive gifts by not eating and drinking?”
“Just because he can suffer doesn’t mean I have to suffer too. Why can’t he see my feelings?” she asked.
Put yourself in your boyfriend’s shoes
Malaysians turned the tables on her, questioning whether she would be happy with gifts of the same value she gave her boyfriend, and told her that her boyfriend deserves better.
“Then change POV (point of view). If you gave him a PS5 and he only gives you a 5-piece makeup set from Shopee, will you be able to accept it?”
“Suppose your partner buys you a bag for RM50 from Shopee, would you be okay with that?”
“It’s not about the money, it’s about you having different standards for gifts.”
“I would advise him to break up with you, he deserves better.”
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