A 27-year-old Malaysia lifestyle blogger, Chin Yi Xuan, recently took to social media to share his personal thoughts and challenges he has been facing as he approaches his thirties.
Yi Xuan, who runs a blog called No Money Lah where he often talks about his finance journey and personal growth, took to Facebook to share how his life goals have changed in some ways over the years and between generations.
He expressed his fears and frustration as he feels he has fallen behind his peers.
His post garnered over 64,000 shares, 62,000 likes and 4,100 comments, most of which netizens expressed how they too can relate to his struggles.
He wrote in his post, “Isn’t it crazy that at this age, many of our parents were already getting married, more so bringing us to this world? On the flip side, today, many of us are still struggling to get a hold of ourselves in our late 20s.”
“Forget getting married or buying a house by 30. I am blessed if I can take care of myself already!”
“For the longest of time, I find it extremely hard to express my fears and worries in words. Why? Because by the norms, the age ’30’ is such a unique milestone of life,” he wrote.
“Getting married. Buying your first property. Being financially stable and well-paid. Having all the answers. Be it from the norms, social media, or ourselves, I am sure many of us are carrying some form of expectations as we transition towards 30.”
Fearing turning 30
“I feel that I am losing out in life. Many of my peers are getting married, buying their first house and/or car etc.”
“Look at me, what am I doing here being single, and not achieving anything significant in life so far?”
Venting further, he expressed more of his anger at not having accomplished more in life although he has dedicated so much time and effort to his work.
This is something most of us could relate to too. Remember the time where we try to reach the top in our careers but still faced disappointments? Remember feeling lost?
It really does feel like we are living our lives on autopilot sometimes.
With more financial pressure to get our own car, place to live… Yi Xuan vented on how we always feel like we have to earn more and more.
“No joke. Getting married, buying a house and car, building a family – all of these require money. How are my peers handling all these life commitments and finances at my age? HOW??”
He then questions how he’ll be living the remainder of his 20s.
“Am I going to end my 20s just like this? Normal, insignificant? –To be honest, I do not have clear answers to any of my worries & fears above.”
“And it’s funny how I used to think I’d have all the answers and wisdom by this age.”
“What I can control”
He jotted down advice to his own doubts and insecurities:
(i) Define what ‘turning 30’ means for myself
Not what ‘turning 30’ means to my parents, some ‘successful’ influencers, or peers. Just me. How I see myself by 30. (*But it feels good to rant a bit!).
(ii) Cut my time on social media significantly (except for work)
How others live their life has nothing to do with mine.
(iii) Work towards (i)
“Defining what turning 30 means to me.”
(iv) Learn to forgive myself (still learning!)
Be grateful for every small or big progress in this journey.
Can you relate to his struggles? What advice do you have to conquer these insecurities that most of us have? Share your thoughts.
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